Overcoming the loss. Part 2. Ksenia Teresa Tarnavska, analytically oriented psychologist

Overcoming the loss. Reconciliation and emotional farewell.

It is easier for Christians to survive loss: hope through grief

Ksenia Teresa Tarnavska, analytically oriented psychologist, candidate for psychotherapist, co-author of the project “Tree of My Life”

“The Lady in Black”: giving yourself permission to be angry, bargaining, and depressed

We are with a person who is experiencing a loss. What happens next?

After the shock stage, the path of living with the loss continues.

Here you can already assign responsibilities, the emphasis is on the person who is grieving. You need to understand that this is the path of a grieving person.

The stages of grieving: anger, depression, bargaining – need to be passed through in order to adapt to the loss. They cannot be ignored.

The grieving person must realize that this is normal. Anger and feelings of anger are normal.

What does “anger” and “bargaining” mean at the stage of grieving?

Why do we need to allow ourselves to do them?

What is the point?

Why shouldn’t you suppress anger and bargaining? Why shouldn’t you pretend that it doesn’t exist?

The stages of grieving can vary, they can take different lengths of time.

With our experiences, we close the stage of living together. Through this anger, bargaining, we “sew up”. We need someone to help us.

“Adaptation” to the loss of a person lasts a year: we live all the days of the year without that person, and we have to plan how we will live this time.

How does prayer help?

There is no shame in asking for help!

Conversations with family, friends, priests, clergy, psychologists – it is worth opening up to help.

Faith helps to survive losses.